I sing in the choir, 3 services every weekend. I face the congregation. It is not at all difficult to see in the faces of the families who are struggling. Interestingly, children do not bring couples closer together. In a lot of instances, marriage does not bring a couple closer together. Argue with me about these points if you wish.
My thinking is that a woman who is actively seeking a life partner is much more flirtatious and comely to her chosen partner until she has succeeded in securing the promise of marriage, at which point she may then change her focus from trying to catch a man to making a home and a family. Children, on the other hand tend to drive a wedge between couples in their different aspects to parenting. Of course, financial stability, plays its part in the drama of family dynamics.
Church is where we go to replenish several necessary wells, in our souls. The first of which is love for fellow man, the second is a deep and binding faith in a power that is second to none, and is also not us. We go to church to replenish hope with charity, that, except for the grace of God there goes I. Conditions could be a lot worse. I am thankful to be alive and to have the talents and grace that I have been given.