I just take the "It's all I want for Christmas/my birthday" approach.No sneeking or fighting. The only down side is she hates that she can't suprise me and makes me feel guilty about that. In the last 6 years this has netted me a cool ruger 1022 with a manlicher stock, 12ga synthetic stocked 870, Deluxe model topper, and last year a .50 cal stainless Encore with a brown lam. stock. I think this is the year of the Deluxe topper classic.