bumble,
My experience with (re) forming Starline .45-70 brass to .40-65 somewhat mirrors your implied difficulties.
Have found that trying to form in one sweep of the reloading press handle is an exercise in futility. After trying Hornady One Shot, which usually works well, and finding it lacking, then decided to use the old standby of LeClair Forming die wax. It too resisted the "one sweep of the press handle" to accomplish the mission (RCBS Rock Chucker).
Final and with favorable results were accomplished with plain ole lanolin and adjusting the size die to accomplish the mission in three separate operations. Two different thicknesses of spacer washers were used prior to the size die being in the "full length sized" posetion.
Hope this helps,