is the kick on the 45 70 as light as say the 35 rem or anything like that?
In equally setup guns there is just no comparison with factory loads. Heat each one up to max and the .45-70 is even worse, IMO anyway, I'm talking 14" barrels, 200- and 400-grain bullets, scopes, Pachmyers and brakes. The .30-30 is a pussycat in comparison....
Recoil can be a poor indicator of velocity. If the factory used 30 grains of a fast powder and you used 42 grains of a slow powder, the heavier charge would - in most cases - feel heavier. But the recoil is another reason that the handloads impact higher - even with idendtical barrel time, the more heavily recoiling load will kick the muzzle higher when the bullet exits.