I've never understood how people can reflect on the teachings of Christ, add resentment, bigotry, despite, and hate, and still somehow believe that their words or attitude in some way represent those teachings.
I believe that Jesus would respond by "driving the money-lenders from the temple".
And He wasn't even a Christian.
If aid is to be given in a Christian spirit, there should be no expectation of thanks, reward, or repayment.
If they don't want it. Don't give it to them. If they do, give it to them and expect nothing in return.