I've had so much trouble dealing with this. I worked in nursing homes for many years and have witnessed this. But, every time the decision was made at the time of injury, illness, by family members or power of attorney for tubes or no tubes, NOT 7 years later. No matter the case, once a feeding tube is inserted it should not be removed. I've cared for residents who by stroke or whatever, are literally trapped inside their body. They look at you, follow you (with their eyes) and on a rare, but wonderful occasion, smile! What a feeling that gives!
Residents in late stages of whatever dementia are spoon fed every meal, every day, should that be stopped, too?
I whole-heartily believe God does what He does for a reason. Most of the time we never figure it out.
I have found this whole ordeal barbaric, and like I said, have trouble with it.
May you finally have well deserved peace in God's hands, Terri, and I will pray for your family to pull through strong.
I am so sorry your life had to turn into a media circus.
Deb :-)