For a while, i had both chamberings in identical 21" factory barrels.
For some reason, i never could get around to doing much with the 7x30, its a fine & great round, but the TCU always seemed to do what i wanted with less blast, less recoil, and less wasted powder. Of course i shoot small deer at about 100 yards, and the TCU worked fine. i guess if you are shooting longer ranges or bigger deer the 7x30 makes more sense.
I also like the 120 grainers like Pinkerton mentioned in my 21", and it is much more accurate than a 5 1/2# carbine is supposed to be. For a couple of years i didnt have a 7 TCU, since it made more sense on paper to use the 7x30 that did everything it did plus a bit more, but i just didnt use the 7x30 when i had it...several months ago i got another 7 TCU, and i sold the 7x30 barrel this week. My low-recoil loads for the 7 TCU consists of the Hornady 120 SSP over 17.5 grains of H4227...that powder is a bit fast, and so does not get the max velocity you could get with slower powders, but with a charge weight that light, recoil & blast is very light.
Of couse, since you handload you could just get the 7x30 and load it down if recoil/blast is too much for her to use with factory loads...