Gee, I don't think it has anythign at all to do with a "virile male". I have one lady friend who loves shooting my Ruger SBH in .44 Magnum, and another who thinks shooting hardball in a 1911A1 is the gnat's ass.
I don't think either would like to be called a "virile male".
Personally, I used a Ruger BH in .357 for my handgun hunting until Ruger brought out the SBH in .44 Magnum. It had nothing at all to do with "virility", but rather it extended my handgun hunting range by an additional 25 yards.
As for all the sooper calibers that have been unleashed on us in the past couple of years...I don't need them and I don't want them.
Bond switched from the .25ACP to the .380 because Ian Flemming knew absolutley nothing about ballistics.
Movies have switched from wheelguns to semi-autos because all of a sudden producers and directors realized that the public was able to count to 6, and getting 150 rounds out of a six-shooter started getting a little troublesome.
With a semi-auto, the average movie going slob doesn't know one from the other, so the movie people can get away with 50 rounds from a Beretta 92 and it will go un-noticed.
Recently I had the pleasure of watching one flick where the Beretta fired from an open slide...75 times...
In real life I carry both wheelgun and semi-auto. Wheelguns in .38 Special and .357 Magnum, semi-autos in 9mm and .45ACP. It all depends on the time of the year.
For hunting, I now only carry the SBH in .44 Magnum, anything the .357 can do at 75 yards, the .44 can do a little better and a little farther.
Oh, and none of my handguns have flashlights attached, or laser sights, or bipods, or muzzle breaks, or detachable stocks, or any of that crap seen in movies and on TV. And I don't have to carry them in a holster that reached from my middle thigh to my ankle...