I looked up your bullet weight and powder on the most recent of RCBS's reloading programs. In the section for Lyman's 46th handbook they list the 2400 grain range for your bullet weight as 16.2 to 20.2. That's for a 265 grain bullet.
So you are using a very slightly heavier bullet with a powder charge about a grain over maximum? Did I understand that correctly? Over maximum loads worry me.
As to the cylinder pin pulling out there are speciality firms that make replacement pins that, I'm told, are excellent. REALLY good. You might look into that.
As to the bullets pulling out, there are ways to solve that BUT just maybe you should back off the powder charge instead. Just a suggestion.