I replaced the Hoque Bantams on my 396 with a set of the Hoque 500s that Smith & Wesson sells. The 500s have a wide, cushioned, covered backstrap. I did this before messing with any heavy loads because the bantams on my 340 cost me 2 stitches in the web of my hand. I have two holsters for the 396 -- useage of which depends on what I'm doing. The first, is a Haugen three slot thumb break that I carry cross draw during archery elk season. The Haugen is a very compact, lightweight holster. The other is a Milt Sparks Versa Max II (Inside Waste Band) used when out in the woods with the dog (5 days a week 7 months of the year), and don't want to carry extra weight, and don't want to appear armed. I don't use mine for typical concealed carry so the bigger grips don't cause me any problems -- actually they are reasonably concealable with the Versa Max II. My load is a 250gr Leadhead (actually weighs 258gr) at a chronographed 1,030 fps from the 3 1/4" bbl. As Loyd mentioned above, these loads are more than "SNAPPY". This gun is my "last resort', "stick it in their ear" gun all though it is quite capable of excellent accuracy at longer distances. It's just very hard to shoot well at longer ranges because of the light weight ant short barrel.
Hope some of this rambling helps.
Paul