Just a follow-up on the problem.
I got my dies back from RCBS, they gave me a .4285" expander plug, I will say that it made a significant difference in neck tension, and the bullets do not jump as far, but they still jump.
This time the load was with 22.5g of H110 for about 1400fps or so, just to check for jumping. the first 5 jumped a distance just dicernable with the naked eye and the last one jumped so that the case mouth was just above and inside the crimp groove. Pulled bullets are still being swaged under sized by the case inside dia. not as much, but still are.
This is a major step foward in my case/application.
I took the advice from LBT and ordered a properly sized expander plug, they told me $22. To see the difference in neck tension when switching plug diameter, from .425" to .4285", change so much, I can now see what LBT is saying about choosing expander plugs that are .0002" under bullet diameter or up to actual bullet diameter to achieve maximum case grip. Bullet will not be swaged under size and brass will have a better contact with the lead for it's entire surface, makes sense to me.
I definetaly recommend trying this if:
1. you shoot lead bullets
2. your accuracy is just O.K. {2'' at 50ydsfrom a rest, scoped}
3. your handloads are usually right next to the wall to maintain uniformity.
4. you only want to change 2 of these factors.
I'm glad I did not give up on this and go back to shooting jacketed bullets.
swampthing